I thought I’d share my experience with email as a medium for intimacy, and even sexting.
It seems so counterintuitive to use email to communicate with a partner when you can just shoot them a text. Most people, including myself, use email almost exclusively for work and to receive both solicited and unsolicited coupons. However, I’ve recently experimented with using email in a more personal, even sensual way, and I found it incredibly rewarding. I thought I’d share a few of my thoughts on the experience and some of the unique aspects of email that differentiate it from other forms of textual intimacy.
The Return of Love Letters
Media and pop culture have often romanticized love letters, the lost art of a bygone era. Though I agree that sending physical letters through the mail to correspond with a lover is rather antiquated, I believe we can still capture the essence of love letters through 21st century electronic mail.
When was the last time you wrote to your lover in paragraphs, or even complete sentences proper punctuation? With a letter, you can heap on the praise and worship in prose normally reserved for everything but romance. There’s a lot of fun that can be had with the letter formatting. For example, one of my favourite things to play with in a romantic email is the sign-off. Signing-off with ‘Always Yours’, ‘Adoringly Yours’, or even a simple ‘xx’, can be a nice change of pace and add a romantic flair to an already steamy letter.
Another element of letters that I love incorporating is the postscript. I love writing a long, sensual email, signing-off with a ‘Forever Yours’, and adding a ‘P.S.’ to throw in one last cheeky compliment or naughty thought. I often like using a P.S. to juxtapose a romantic letter with more pointed sexual comment or idea. I find it’s a fun way to fan the flames of a slow-burning sexual journey with a glimpse at the final destination.
Where Long-Form Excels
The biggest difference between instant messaging and email is the length of each message. I think the thing I enjoy most about incorporating long-form writing in an intimate, sexual context, is that it’s like I’m writing one of my erotic stories for a single person.
With multiple sentences and short paragraphs, you can set the scene and create an atmosphere more easily than through instant messaging. You can transport your partner to a world of your creation, and all they have to do is check their email.
Letters and long-form writing also lend themselves to more collaborative experiences, where one person can set the stage, the other can take the first step. Exchanging longer, thought-out scenes can lead to a more complete story where both partners react and respond equally.
Another benefit letters have over instant messaging is the ability to maintain multiple streams of thought at once. For example, if you and your partner have a deeper relationship than just sexting, you can break your single letter into a daily life update and a steamy dream you had about your partner, and throw in a P.S. telling them they looked stunning in their latest Instagram post. Letters can allow you to juggle many balls (in more ways than one).
The Slow Burn
To really get the most out of sharing intimacy through email, you have to embrace the slow burn. Take your time crafting your emails. Think about what it is you’re trying to convey, and don’t hold back with the verbosity! Time is your greatest ally in this respect, because the denser the email is with romance and sensuality, the greater the payoff for your partner waiting excitedly for it.
This form requires you to practice patience. You can really play with the letter aspect of each email, limiting yourselves to a single letter each a day, or even a week. Delayed gratification can seriously amplify the experience and bring a new dimension to your sexting life
If you’re an avid sexter or even just looking for something low-stakes and new to try with a partner, give email a try. You can even snag a free email address from Protonmail for that added privacy piece of mind.
Happy Writing 🙂
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